Friday, June 17, 2011

Advice for my 20 year old self...

I saw this idea on lovely Mag's page this morning and I thought, what advice would I give my younger self if I could?  It's strange to think back on the silly/crazy/stupid things I did in college and the things I thought were so important at that time in my life.  I know college is the time you grow, learn things about yourself, meet new people, and create your own life but I wonder how my life would look now if I had done things differently....or maybe, everything happens for a reason.

Advice I would give my 20 year old self:

1.  Never take your mom for granted. Life is short and you will miss her very much one day, sooner than you think. Soak up all her wisdom, learn her recipes, talk about her life before you, and ask her advice about being a mother. 

2.  Thank your dad for everything he has done for you.  You will soon learn that not everyone has a dad as great as you do.

3.  Listen to your sister's advice, she's "been there, done that", she knows what she's talking about, and she only wants what is best for you.

4.  Have more confidence and self-respect.  If a guy doesn't call you back, it is not the end of the world.  If he calls you at 2am, don't answer the phone.

5.  You don't always have to do what your friends do, sometimes it's ok to say no.  If they are true friends, they won't care. And you will meet some really fantastic, true friends who will be in your life for a long time.

6.  Trust your instinct.  Always.

7.  Although it may seem like there are no good guys left, you will find one and you won't be expecting it.  He is amazing.

8.  One of your biggest problems is you care too much what people think about you.  Remember this quote:  When you become immobilized by what anybody else thinks of you, what you're saying is: "Your opinion of me is more important than my own opinion of myself." Wayne Dyer

9.  You will struggle with whether or not to move home, don't worry.... everything happens for a reason.

10.  Live life, be happy, you'll be fine.

What advice would you give your 20 year old self??


  1. I love your list! Definitely agree about spending more time with parents and taking their advice more seriously. My mom actually DID know what she was talking about afterall ;)

  2. Love this! Cherishing every moment with a family member is so important. My Dad died almost 13 years ago and I still miss him so very much.

    And yes, trust your instincts!

    I would tell myself to enjoy eating whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted because that won't last forever!

    TGIF to you!

  3. Good post, life does change and I do wonder if I would have done all the things I did if I knew then what I know now.

  4. 4,6, 8, and 10 pretty much recap most of my 20's!!!! I would tell myself to lighten up, stop searching for others to love and define me, and to just go with the flow!

    That and ofcourse I would warn my 20 year old self to spend a lot less time in frat houses- they will give you no more than hangovers and regrets, lol

  5. Love your list... I would add to mine that the joke was on me when I rolled my eyes at "old fashioned" advice... wear sunscreen, slow down, take calcium...I'm listening now! :]

  6. Very insightful. Right now the first thing that comes to mind is: Dump that idiot!!! You'll end up dumping him anyway years from now anyway!!!

  7. This is great! Sometimes I wish I knew then what I know now but you learn from everything you go thru. I will have to try and think of wht I would say to meself!!!

  8. i love your list, and the quote on number 8 is amazing!! :)


I would love to hear what you have to say!